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The scriptures have many instructions that we can depend upon to guide us as we lead our homes.  First we need to build a foundation upon which we can raise godly children.  Many people look at children as possessions, but children are called blessings in the word.  We are the vehicles by which cells of the body are added.  We are responsible to the Father for the children we are blessed with. We are told "train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6

How do we do such things?  In our home we chose to homeschool our daughter.  Her training began in a Christian school, but like the secular schools there was much taught in "Christian Schools" that we disagreed with.  There was just too much compromise. I won't argue with proponents of public schooling or private schooling, but will say that no one will give account for your child's education but you.  





Children are gifts, blessings from the L-rd and not to be taken for granted or treated as possessions. 

Eph 6:1-4

6:1 Children, obey your parents in the L-rd, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: 3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the L-rd. NKJV

Our husbands are responsible for the training and admonition of the L-rd.  We are responsible to follow out their instructions.  We're taught to teach our daughters (the younger women) to love their husbands and their children. We're supposed to lively godly lives before our children.  Our children won't do what we tell them if we don't live according to the word.  Many will say "Do what I say, not what I do", but this instruction is rarely followed.  The more word from God that you observe to do, the more your children will observe to do. Children are reflections of us, if we are secretly ungodly, they will be openly ungodly.

Here are just a few scriptures from Proverbs that clearly illustrate how a child is to be raised.  There are countless thousands of instructions through out the bible, and it will require you as a parent to search them out and teach them to your children.


  • Proverbs 4:1
    1 Hear, my children, the instruction of a father, And give attention to know understanding; 

  • Proverbs 5:7
    7 Therefore hear me now, my children, And do not depart from the words of my mouth. 

  • Proverbs 7:24
    24 Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth: 

  • Proverbs 8:32
    32 "Now therefore, listen to me, my children, For blessed are those who keep my ways. 

  • Proverbs 13:22
    22 A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, But the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous. 

  • Proverbs 14:26
    26 In the fear of the LORD there is strong confidence, And His children will have a place of refuge. 

  • Proverbs 17:6
    6 Children's children are the crown of old men, And the glory of children is their father. 

  • Proverbs 20:7
    7 The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him. 

  • Proverbs 31:28
    28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: 

  • Proverbs 20:11
    11 Even a child is known by his deeds, Whether what he does is pure and right. 

  • Proverbs 22:6
    6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. 

  • Proverbs 22:15
    15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him. 

  • Proverbs 23:13
    13 Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. 

  • Proverbs 23:24
    24 The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice, And he who begets a wise child will delight in him. 

  • Proverbs 29:15
    15 The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. 

    Tips I've discovered after raising one child and losing a second.


  • Children are reflections of us.  Is your kid acting like a brat?  He/she learned it from someone.

  • Evil communication corrupts good behavior.  Bad friends make bad children.

  • Spend time in prayer and in the word in order to be a good parent.

  • Always be consistent.

  • Never threaten.

  • Make your word good when you promise reward or correction.

  • Listen more than you speak.

  • Get as many facts as possible before disciplining.

  • Praise your child in every effort he/she makes.

  • Children eat smaller portions than adults.

  • Children may have different taste than their parents.

  • Children are fragile.

  • Children are precious.

  • Children grow up fast, very fast.

  • Evil communication corrupts good behavior. (Friends, books, TV, movies can all corrupt children.)

  • Children take your word as gospel until you prove yourself untrue.

  • Children don't lie about sexual abuse.

  • Make your adult friends wait when your child needs you.  

  • Give your child attention and he/she will be attentive to you.

  • Children deserve respect.

  • Pay attention to what you tell your children, they will mimic your words.

  • Parents shouldn't be buddies.

  • Your dreams aren't your child's dreams.

  • Children have spiritual gifts and talents.

  • You can kill a child's hope.

  • Make time to be a wife so you can be a good mom.

  • Make time to be a woman so you can be a good wife and a good mom.

  • Don't let your child sleep in your bed.  You can go lie next to their bed for a short time until he is settled.  

  • If you want modest children, you have to be modest.

  • Physical discipline should be reserved for rebellious behaviors.

  • Children can't always express what they are feeling, so tears or outbursts may be their attempt to express hard or deep feelings.

  • Never assume a teacher knows more than you.  

  • Never assume a Sunday school or Christian teacher will teach your ideals.

  • You as a parent will give account to God for your child.

  • Don't be afraid to cuddle your children, they will become loving in response.

  • It is your job to nurture and protect your child.

  • You should watch out for children wherever you go.  If you see something fishy don't stand idly by.